Different

Realizing a lot lately about the differences of each individual – at work, between friends, between partners, in a family. We’re all different people. We should never expect that they will understand in the same level we do, that they learn, cope, feel, think in the same level we do.

We can’t push anyone else to do and think like we do. I guess remembering this will make my heart and mind calmer and softer.

I always get stressed when I come across people who don’t know how to do things right after countless demos and guidelines I provide. – Hey, they’re not me, maybe they need more time, or a different way to do it, or just accept they won’t/can’t.

I get stressed with insensitive people. – Hey, they’re not me, there are reasons (their environment, history, how they grew up) why they may not be too sensible or can’t be more empathetic. They’re just different from me. That’s just it.

I get stressed with people who don’t follow policies and don’t stick to plans. – Hey, they’re not me, I don’t know how much they can remember, how important these plans and policies are to them like with me, or what’s going on in their heads and lives now.

I get stressed with people who are too sensitive. – Hey, they’re not me, what’s shallow to me may be deep to them. They and I can’t control that. We’re built different.

I could go on and on. Bottomline is we’re all different, even best friends, even twins, even parents, everyone is different. We just need to remember that in every raised eyebrows, every conflict, every argument, every yell, every sigh.

Then maybe we each can have better days.

Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk. Lol. I myself will read and read this again next time..

1:28am

Just saving this here for a personal reminder / kick in the head, for when times get rough again.

Almost every week is a stressful week, or problem-filled week, or emotional week. Agree?

No. We just tend to highlight the most challenging days, the deepest sighs, the loudest shouts, the faintest cries, the toughest hours. But it’s not every week, every hour, not every day!

We also get times like mine now. 1am, quiet, everyone’s asleep, I’m sitting on my mat after finishing my daily exercise, contemplating about how much I’ve been through this week, last month, last year.. While also reflecting on this very moment, this peaceful moment I get to have. Right now, I’m not worried about bills (paid!), big tasks to do (done, the most urgent ones), work (weekend!)..

And I get to freely choose if I will play games, continue with anime, watch a new movie, continue with ASL lessons, not worrying about an important, dreadful thing to do one after the other or after a short rest.

We do get days like this. We get to pause and enjoy like this.

Life is, truly, like a wheel that goes on and on. But it lets us get some free time like this.

The rain doesn’t pour all year long. So appreciate it when you get sunny days. And when you’re all soaked in the rain, or your umbrella’s about to break, just keep going.

You’ll never know if tomorrow’s the day that you’re waiting for, all bright and sunny. ☀️

Some Days

It’s so hard to act on my thoughts these past, few days. I have a lot in mind, plans, priorities, to-do lists written on paper and engraved in my memory, but I just can’t begin.

And that, apart from knowing how much I need to do and how important most are, makes it really frustrating.

But I hope we don’t forget that some days, it’s okay to just survive for the day, it’s okay to sit down and let your mind roam, it’s okay to just watch or just eat or just have a chat with your friends/family.

Yes, hustle, improve, push for the better, but like machines, you have limits and you need to recharge.

Also, your best is different from someone else’s best. Your best today is different from your best yesterday.

You did your best today! Rest and try again tomorrow.

One week

I get why I feel like days fly by so fast, now.

I’m doing nothing.

The weeks are passing by the same ways. It’s always the same things. There’s nothing new, nothing special, nothing’s changed.

That’s what I should vow to myself to start doing now. Each week, there should be at least one thing I accomplished, began, or changed. I will jot it down weekly and post it here exactly one year later. I know this initiative will greatly impact who and where I will be by that time.

It’s just up to me to start.

Rest now, father and daughter

Can’t imagine how Natalia and Vanessa are right now. Be strong, girls. Be strong.

Babies Capri and Bianka Bryant will grow up with stories about their father and sister instead of growing up beside them. Dang, who would’ve thought this would happen.

Tomorrow’s never promised. Make every day with your families worthwhile.

Also, everyone being in shock and praying for the Bryant family is totally understandable, but please also have the other people onboard in your thoughts and prayers.

My condolences to the families who have lost someone dear to them today.