“If somebody is worth your currency, spend it.” -Carla Harris, on How to find the person who can help you get ahead at work; TED Talks Daily
“You can survive a long time in your career without a mentor, but you are not going to ascend in any organization without a sponsor… You should ask yourself regularly, ‘who’s carrying my paper into the room?'” -Carla Harris; TED Talks Daily
But no matter how bad I feel for what happened to our friendship, I keep getting the but-it-was-toxic end of statement.
It was bound to end one way or another. I will not be able to stay long in that kind of friendship. It’s exhausting. Nakakasakal. It’s just too much.
I was very happy and very grateful for your family’s generosity and open hearts. I had a very good time staying at your place, spending time with your relatives who made me feel like I was part of the family, too. It sucks I had to disappear.
I truly, honestly, hope you’re doing okay. Last time your cousin and I spoke, you weren’t. I wish you’d come out of your shell, meet people, trust people, live.
I hope you find the best friend I can never be. I hope you also have a boy friend now. I can’t wait to hear about those two!
I sincerely hope I haven’t scarred you for life.
I knew what your other former friends meant to you and how bad it shaped your outlook in life. Still, I turned out to be one of those stories.
But I just can’t be friends with just you. I can’t let you prohibit me from going out with other people just coz you need me and only had me. I can’t let you make me feel bad for not always visiting when I started working and moved back home to spend time with my family. I have a life of my own, too.
It was getting toxic. Early on, I saw the red flags; but I thought I could help you. I thought I will be able to. I almost lost some other good friends in the process. I have a life of my own, too. As much as I wanted to be the best friend for you, I can’t just have my life revolve around you.
In the end, I had to lose you.. and your whole, amazing family. I miss all of you.. Always. I think there’s not a month I haven’t thought of you. I’ve even thought of driving by your street sometime.
But it wasn’t just all you; I hope you know that. I was wrong in many ways. I was wrong to try to change you. I realized too late that I couldn’t help you by forcing you to change. We’re different. We’re polars. Solutions that benefit me may not be able to help you. They didn’t.
I wish you well.
I haven’t given up; I know you will do better. I know you can. You don’t need someone else to help you. You need you. You have you. One day you’ll come to realize that. Stay healthy. Stay alive.
I feel for those who can relate to Koe No Katachi (A Silent Voice). I sincerely hope watching this film helped you in any way, guys.
“Everyone goes through difficulties in life. But we’re all in the same boat, aren’t we?” -Kawai
Among the 5 senses, sight is the most important for me. I couldn’t imagine not being able to see how beautiful this world is. I always feel for those who can’t see.
Fortunately, I came across this ad of an app yesterday. Its goal is to help the blind.. To be their eyes for one moment. All you have to do is to take their call when notified and assist them in any way you can.
I just received my first call minutes ago. I assisted him in turning the knobs of his washing machine to how they should be. For us, it’s that simple. To them, it means a lot.
I recommend you download this app, too! #BeMyEyes 5/5